Image based bullying. So not ok!

Everything you need to know to stay safe from
Image based bullying. So Not OK.

1 in 5 young women have experienced image based bullying.
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Nobody thinks this will ever happen to them or their friends, but in reality – in today’s crazy, digital world – it’s more common than you think! What you need to know is that sharing or threatening to share sexual images or nudes of someone else WITHOUT their permission is image based bullying (also referred to as image based abuse).

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Around 11% of Australian
adults have experienced
image based bullying.
This was 15% for girls
aged 15 -17 years.

We want to encourage
everyone to take a stand.

Sexting, Huh?

Ok.....
So you’ve probably heard the term ‘sexting’ before – maybe from your teachers, your parents (awkward), or from an article or two online. The people who do research (academics), and give us all the stats we are using, refer to the sharing of sexual images as ‘Sexting’ and the images as ‘Sexts’, but we’re going to call these pics ‘Nudes’.

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You, or people you know, may have sent and received a few nudes before and not thought much about it because nothing has gone wrong. Sometimes, it’s not as simple as taking a nude and sending it to someone. Sending a nude actually has four stages and each stage is like a ‘choose your own adventure’ journey, where the choices you make can affect what happens in the next stage.

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Respectful
Relationships

Relationships can be so hard, right? But they also make us feel

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Sharing nudes usually happens between two people in a relationship, people who want to be in a relationship or between friends. Let’s break it down for you in four stages of sending nudes, remembering there are choices that need to be made between each step. The choices made by the two people involved tell us if a relationship is respectful or not.

Stage 1

Send nudes pls???

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  • In a respectful relationship you can say no if you don’t feel comfortable and the other person will be ok with it.
  • In a respectful relationship the person would not pressure you or threaten you if you say no.
Stage 2

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  • If you decide to take a nude, you are able to talk to the person about your ‘rules’ to make sure it stays private.
  • Just in case it does get shared, don’t show your face or anything that lets people know it’s you, like birth marks, tatts, piercings or things that are in the background like a poster on your wall.
Stage 3

Nude is shared
with a trusted person

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  • In a respectful relationship the person will not say anything mean or nasty about the nude. Instead, they will make you feel safe and valued.
  • In a respectful relationship the nude will stay between the two of you and the person you sent it to respects your privacy ‘rules’.
  • In a respectful relationship nudes don’t need to be saved or stored.
Stage 4

Trust is broken, nude is
shared without your
permission

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  • If anyone tries to show you a nude of someone else, tell them that it’s so not ok.
  • If someone forwards you a nude, don’t feel like you have to look at it or share it with others.
  • If a nude of someone else has been shared with you, let the person in the nude know that they are not in the wrong, that they have power and that they can take action.

Here's the thing...

  • Not all four stages happen every time. For example, someone takes a nude without being asked and sends it to their partner, who keeps it to themselves. In this case, stages 1 and 4 won’t happen.
  • If a nude is taken, sent on purpose and kept private, most of the time it’s ok and no one gets hurt.
  • Stages 2 and 3 represent the most common scenario, and luckily no one gets hurt.
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Let’s use stages 3 and 4 as an example:
Someone receives a nude from their partner. Now they have a choice. The receiver can either keep it to themselves or they can move into stage 4 by sharing it with someone else without permission. Stage 4 is image based bullying, which is SO NOT OK.

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What you need Respect

Consent...
Do you get it?

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Consent is about getting the ‘ok’ from both people involved each step of the way. It’s a good idea to suss someone out before sending or asking for a nude. If you get a feeling that they are not super into it, don’t send anything or nag them to send one. Your idea of flirting or a bit of fun could differ from theirs, and might completely freak the other person out, or make them feel awkward.

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If both of you seem keen it’s important to keep sussing to make sure both of you are completely clear with what is ok and what is so not ok. Like being straight up about keeping the nudes private, sticking to waist ups only, deleting the nudes once they’ve been seen and any other rules that make both people feel comfortable. It’s also a good idea to continue checking in with each other and, of course, sticking to the rules that you both agreed to is a must!

What's Not Ok?

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The Office of the eSafety2 Commissioner (basically the protector of all things online in Australia) tells us that image based abuse (that's what they call image based bullying) is when intimate or sexual photos or videos are shared online without consent, either to humiliate or shame someone, or for the ‘entertainment’ of others.

Most people think that sharing other people’s nudes is a serious breach of trust and privacy, but it still happens. The research shows the most common reason people say they shared a nude someone trusted them with was because they wanted to get revenge after a relationship had broken up.
(Albury, K., Crawford, K., Byron, P., Mathews B. (2013)).

2www.esafety.gov.au

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So... Who's to blame?

Image based bullying happens when a nude is shared without the ok of the person in the nude. This is a serious breach of trust and so not ok! Sharing a nude of yourself does not give the other person the ok to share it with anyone else.

You may have noticed so far we haven’t used the word victim to describe someone who’s experienced image based bullying. Being labelled a victim can suggest weakness or a lack of power.

One thing to remember: The people who have been affected by image based bullying are #INNOCENT. It is not their fault.

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This fear can sometimes lead to people who experience image based bullying to also experience sextortion. Sextortion is basically when someone has a nude of someone else and they threaten to share it either online or with the person in the nude's friends or family, if they don’t do something in return. It is a form of blackmail and the person who is threatening to share the nude might ask for more nudes, money or anything else they want. The person who is in the nude can be so worried about their family and friends seeing it that they feel like they have no choice but to do what the person threatening to share the nude asks. Letting people you care about know that image based bullying is so not ok may help them avoid experiencing sextortion.

Image based bullying has serious mental and physical impacts on the people whose images are shared:

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People who experience image based bullying need support, not shame or blame. Only half of them say they felt comfortable asking for help.

It sucks, but nudes of girls are seen as more valuable than nudes of boys (crazy, we know).

There is a perception that if boys have nudes of girls they look like ‘The Man’, but girls can get shamed and labelled. What’s worse, girls can be just as judgemental, and often even more judgemental of other girls. Put your hand up if you’ve been named and shamed by a fellow female before.

The fact of the matter is, in today’s cultural climate...

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...it’s that simple

What the law says

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The law says
image based
bullying is
so not ok!
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Stay with us, this gets a little tricky. All states and territories across Australia have child pornography laws that include these same three actions but they're a little bit different in each state. The Federal law may also still apply.

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SA

  • Sharing a nude of yourself or of someone else can be breaking the law if the person in the pic is under 17.

TAS, ACT and NT

  • Sharing a nude of yourself or of someone else can be breaking the law if the person in the pic is under 18.

WA, QLD and NSW

  • Sharing a nude of yourself or of someone else can be breaking the law if the person in the pic is under 16.

VIC

  • Victoria is the only state where taking a nude of yourself and then sharing it with someone who says its ok is legal for young people under 18. BUT this is only if the person sending the nude and person they sent it to are within 2 years of age of each other. So if you are 16, take a nude selfie then send it to someone who is 17, and they keep it to themselves, you are not breaking the law.
  • Sharing a nude of someone else who is under 18 is not ok even if the person in the nude has given permission. So if you are 16, take a nude selfie, then send it to someone who is 17 and they share it, they are breaking the law even if you say it is ok. The law thinks that if you are under 18, you are not old enough to say it’s ok to share.

Help

76%
of Australians who
have experienced
image based bullying
did not take action.

If this has happened to...

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Kids Helpline

Kids Helpline is Australia's only free,
private and confidential 24/7 phone and online counselling service for young people.

Call 1800 55 1800 (24 hours a day)
kidshelpline.com.au

eheadspace

"Waiting Room" of eHeadspace
eheadspace.org.au

eSafety

esafety.gov.au/image-based-abuse
esafety.gov.au/image-based-abuse/support/
esafety.gov.au/find-help/counselling-services

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take a stand
and instead of
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of others… Share this

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Make a positive
change and let
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About

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The Supre Foundation

Funding programs that educate,
support and empower girls.

The Supré Foundation believes in providing a supportive world where girls are empowered. Our dream is to see this generation and future generations of girls having access to all they need to fulfil their potential.

Since 2014, the Foundation has been raising funds through the sale of products at Supré stores globally, with 100% of proceeds going toward fostering a world where all girls can achieve their dreams.

In Australia, we tackle bullying. We fund the delivery of in-school workshops and distribute the Bullying. So Not OK. booklet through stores, community groups and headspace centres.

The Share This! Image Based Bullying. So Not OK. booklet represents phase two of our commitment to help stamp out bullying. Partnering with the Alannah & Madeline Foundation to deliver the Share This! campaign we are specifically tackling image based bullying.

In South Africa we fund the provision of reusable sanitary packs to some of the 4 million girls who do not have access to these and as a result miss school and work. In New Zealand we fund programs into schools that build confidence, resilience and self esteem to Kiwi youth.

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The Alannah & Madeline Foundation

The Alannah & Madeline Foundation was set up in memory of Alannah and Madeline Mikac, aged six and three, who were tragically killed with their mother and 32 others at Port Arthur, Tasmania, on 28 April 1996. The Foundation was launched in 1997 and has been operating for over 20 years.

Their key objectives are to care for children who have experienced or witnessed serious violence; reduce the incidence of bullying, cyber bullying and other cyber risks; and, advocate for the safety and wellbeing of children.

Their programs are in one third of all Australian schools, and more than two thirds of all Australian public libraries (reaching all 1,500 within the next year) and they also support 10,000 children in refuges or foster homes across Australia every year. More than 2 million children and their families have been reached nationwide since the organisation was established in 1997.

THE ALANNAH & MADELINE FOUNDATION MISSION

The Alannah & Madeline Foundation mission is to keep children safe from violence.

THE ALANNAH & MADELINE FOUNDATION VISION

The Alannah & Madeline Foundation's vision is that every child will live in a safe and supportive environment.

THE ALANNAH & MADELINE FOUNDATION'S VALUES

Caring Including others
Friendliness Respect
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